There are these moments during particular days where I must be surprisingly truthful with myself about what I happen to be going through and feeling. I know when it is getting ready to happen because I get this wave of chills from the top of my neck down to my lumbar region and I feel my mood begin to change. I used to be afraid of it...the sensation of water about dripping down my back. But in time I have learned how to sit with it.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling to the surface.
Frequently we travel through life not fully grasping that there are things under the surface. We think we have completely recovered or have moved on, but in reality there are still pieces to the puzzle that have to be put together. Maybe Maybe it is only one piece left, maybe it is simply this moment where you need to sit right down and get quiet one last time, or maybe it demands more of your attention.
There's a fascinating balance between moving forward and mulling over something, whatever the situation might be and starting to appreciate what is going on within. I think most of the time when anyone is hurt and people recognise it they try to tell that person to bounce themselves up as fast as possible and forget the past. This advice, while planned to be helpful, isn't basically practical - because the same person who gave that advice, in the same situation, couldn't possibly take it.
The best advice you can truly give is not to forget as quick as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is occurring within. To let it all flow through you. The only possible way you can actually understand what something really means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the aftermath.
Have a truth filled moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They are life's way of balancing you out. When you try to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a horrible place. Let life do what it needs to do so as to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then move onward. Don't attempt to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to chat with you. Open yourself to feelings and let them speak reason into your heart.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling to the surface.
Frequently we travel through life not fully grasping that there are things under the surface. We think we have completely recovered or have moved on, but in reality there are still pieces to the puzzle that have to be put together. Maybe Maybe it is only one piece left, maybe it is simply this moment where you need to sit right down and get quiet one last time, or maybe it demands more of your attention.
There's a fascinating balance between moving forward and mulling over something, whatever the situation might be and starting to appreciate what is going on within. I think most of the time when anyone is hurt and people recognise it they try to tell that person to bounce themselves up as fast as possible and forget the past. This advice, while planned to be helpful, isn't basically practical - because the same person who gave that advice, in the same situation, couldn't possibly take it.
The best advice you can truly give is not to forget as quick as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is occurring within. To let it all flow through you. The only possible way you can actually understand what something really means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the aftermath.
Have a truth filled moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They are life's way of balancing you out. When you try to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a horrible place. Let life do what it needs to do so as to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then move onward. Don't attempt to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to chat with you. Open yourself to feelings and let them speak reason into your heart.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need some more content to move forward with your life and recover from a relationship? Try these ex boyfriend quotes out.
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