Changing your life is tough. It's very tough. I mean, incredibly hard.
For anyone who has seriously attempted to make some major changes in their life because they couldn't handle living in the same way any more, you've potentially experienced the growing pains that come together with deciding to live in another way. You are continually tested, you fail time and again, and it's hard to see the world in the light of cheerfulness.
It does not necessarily demand to be that way.
You see, people struggle with deep change because they don't know the skilled way to act when the negative feelings start bubbling up. They believe that because negativism is occuring that they've got to be doing some things wrong. No! Not remotely. In reality if you're wrestling and it hurts a little, you are actually doing things right. You're growing. You're moving past your comfortable zone.
When you're going through large changes, you're going to come across some important problems. Agony is going to come out to play, your internal critic is going to run wild and free, and you are going to have some struggles. That is fantasically ok! That actually means you are heading in the right direction. Don't declare failure now when you are really hurting. Keep going and see it all the way through and you'll cross the finish line a transformed person.
The "Frying Pan Of Life" is all about how to get sufficiently near to the agony to work with it without being consumed by it. When you are making a new life, old things really tend to trickle out and you have got to spend some time working with them. This is a normal part of the growing process. But you have to work with them because if you fail to, you run the danger of allowing the past to sabotage your dreams.
So how does one do this?
You've got to get close enough to the pain and experience it without getting completely consumed by it. You've got to be content to bring yourself to the painful places and let the thoughts and feelings and emotions swirl around you without taking you totally out of the game. When you can do this, you give yourself access to the lessons and light that are held within that dark place.
This takes a little bit of skill and lots of practice, but if you can really spend a decent amount of time working in these dark areas with some compassion and love, you can defrost even the coldest of hearts.
For anyone who has seriously attempted to make some major changes in their life because they couldn't handle living in the same way any more, you've potentially experienced the growing pains that come together with deciding to live in another way. You are continually tested, you fail time and again, and it's hard to see the world in the light of cheerfulness.
It does not necessarily demand to be that way.
You see, people struggle with deep change because they don't know the skilled way to act when the negative feelings start bubbling up. They believe that because negativism is occuring that they've got to be doing some things wrong. No! Not remotely. In reality if you're wrestling and it hurts a little, you are actually doing things right. You're growing. You're moving past your comfortable zone.
When you're going through large changes, you're going to come across some important problems. Agony is going to come out to play, your internal critic is going to run wild and free, and you are going to have some struggles. That is fantasically ok! That actually means you are heading in the right direction. Don't declare failure now when you are really hurting. Keep going and see it all the way through and you'll cross the finish line a transformed person.
The "Frying Pan Of Life" is all about how to get sufficiently near to the agony to work with it without being consumed by it. When you are making a new life, old things really tend to trickle out and you have got to spend some time working with them. This is a normal part of the growing process. But you have to work with them because if you fail to, you run the danger of allowing the past to sabotage your dreams.
So how does one do this?
You've got to get close enough to the pain and experience it without getting completely consumed by it. You've got to be content to bring yourself to the painful places and let the thoughts and feelings and emotions swirl around you without taking you totally out of the game. When you can do this, you give yourself access to the lessons and light that are held within that dark place.
This takes a little bit of skill and lots of practice, but if you can really spend a decent amount of time working in these dark areas with some compassion and love, you can defrost even the coldest of hearts.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Feeling ready to take the journey of your life? Dive into these life goes on quotes for some wise words on what it means to live honestly.
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