Friday, 1 February 2019

What Happens When You Don't Know How To Release Emotion

By Deborah Moore


Everyone needs to show their emotions from time to time. It is only natural to become angry, anxious, fearful or upset. However, there are people who don't know how to release emotion and to express this. They will simply bottle this up inside and repress it. It is obviously unhealthy to be walking around like this.

When you are angry, for example, you will tell someone how you feel. You would have got a great deal off your chest. It is no longer brewing up inside. Hopefully you would have come to a solution. You can now go on with your life. However, for a person who is angry about the same problem, they will not go about it in the same way. As a result, they will deal with this in other ways.

However, it is impossible not to show your feelings. You simply have to get upset when something traumatic happens in your life. You can't block this out of your life. When you have been told not to be angry, this is also something that you believe. However, it is a natural part of life. It will build up inside of you.

The first thing that you need to do is to love and accept yourself. Children who grew up not being able to express themselves, did not know a lot about love. When you don't know about self love and acceptance, it is difficult to feel anything towards others. This can sometimes be overwhelming, and it takes time to go through the process.

If something traumatic happens as a child, it can be too difficult to talk about it. This is understandable. A child like this will turn to other forms of entertainment which will distract them and they will block out the trauma in their lives. But it will be in their subconscious. They won't forget about this. It will still be there as they grow up.

Of course, this can be a long process during therapy. It will obviously depend on the underlying issue. Some people struggle with something such as abuse. They may be suffering from PTSD. They may have been suffering from recent triggers which have led to flashbacks. There is obviously a lot to deal with.

A person like this will struggle to express themselves because it is not something that they are used to doing. However, there are many ways of doing this. A therapist may feel the best way forward is to be more practical. This can include role play or art therapy. Other therapists will encourage the patient to talk without pushing them.

Of course, therapy can be challenging. However, one also has to ask themselves whether they want to get to the next level where they are able to go through life learning to love themselves and others. Therapy can be hard work and when you make the effort, you will find that it can be extremely helpful, especially when you have a good relationship with the therapist.




About the Author:



No comments:

Post a Comment