Wednesday 28 June 2017

The Importance Of Developing Self Love

By Susan Cooper


Developing the outward appearance is something that most people work towards. This will include working on your job performance, your hobbies and your various skills in life. It may be your relationship with your children and your partner. However, very few people look towards the inside appearance which involves developing self love.

Without self love, you will find that your relationships will suffer and it you will begin to replace many of the finer qualities in your characters that you feel you lack with materialism or greater achievements, focusing on the outward appearances. People sometimes focus on other people, without paying enough attention to themselves and this can be crippling.

A lot of people don't know about their unique character. They are not aware of their special personality or their strengths and how they can use these gifts to the best of their abilities. This allows your personality to shine through. Many people become negative because they are constantly comparing themselves to their colleagues and their friends.

They may want to be slimmer or more extroverted. They may want to be more successful in the work place or have a perfect family. However, when you don't love yourself, you will suffer because you will not be confident and you often lack self esteem, which will lead to a lot of negativity in your life. Self love can sometimes lead to self hate in the worst case scenario.

It is more difficult to be kind to yourself when you have been emotionally abused. This will be drilled into the brain from a young age. However, it is important to change these negative thought patterns. Often, this requires intense therapy. It can be a slow process, but one needs to be patient. Over time, clients begin to improve and this is obviously encouraging.

Encourage yourself through the bad days. Things like depression and anxiety can definitely get you down. You will find that you will find this can lead to a lot of negativity in your life. You may find that self talk can creep into your life. When you are with the right sort of people, you will also find that you will grow and become more encouraged and motivated to move in the right direction.

Get to know more about your unique character. Everyone has a character that is unique to them. It is important not to compare this with anyone else. Weight up your strengths and what can come out of this. Remember there are people that may have strengths, but you may not be able to see their weak points and this is something to take into consideration.

Of course, you will have bad days. This is only natural. However, this is the time when you must surround yourself with positive people who are able to encourage you. You also need to talk to yourself in a positive way. This will avoid negative self talk to crop up which can obviously bring you down and result in a set back.




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