Thursday, 21 December 2017

When Couples Need To Consider Infertility Counseling

By Edward Mitchell


Having children comes easily to a lot of couples. Once they decide it's time, it just happens. There are other couples who try for years to conceive and are disappointed each month when it doesn't happen. As the female partner ages, the chances of getting pregnant become less likely and the process of carrying a child to term, more dangerous. The problem can consume partners and destroy relationships. Many times infertility counseling can help.

Every time they get the news they still aren't pregnant, new panic can set in. It's common for one partner to react more obsessively than the other. This is something that can take over people's lives and affect every decision they make. Discussing the situation with a counselor is one way to try and put things in perspective. This professional can suggest strategies and coping mechanisms to help couples have a full life away from their fertility issues.

Women are more inclined to be the ones who want to talk and talk about why this is happening. Men tend to be fixers instead of talkers. They just want to figure out they can do to make things better. At some point many partners get frustrated and stop communicating. Counseling sometimes opens communication lines again.

At some point, couples may come to a crossroad, and have trouble deciding how to go forward. Partners often disagree. Beginning IVF treatments is a big decision, and whether or not to continue them in the face of failure is an even greater one. The cost is only one factor. There is also the overwhelming stress and the toll it takes on a woman's body. Talking to a third party about the options is often a good way to get a realistic analysis of the situation.

IVF and natural pregnancy aren't the only two ways to make a family. Most couple discuss other options, but many don't explore them fully. It sometimes takes an outsider to sit down with partners and go through all the other options and what they might entail. Couples who want to begin the process of adoption or surrogacy, are usually required to get counseling.

If none of these options work out, couples will have to face the idea that raising children may not be in their future. This can be very difficult after years of assuming parenthood would eventually happen. It may require changing mindsets and setting new goals with the help of a professional.

As loving as family and close friends might be, they aren't always the best people to go to when couples need to talk out differences. They can be too close to the situation to listen without expressing strong opinions. Counselors are trained to listen to both sides impartially and compassionately. They will never repeat what they have heard, place blame, or tell one or both partners what they have to do.

There are a lot of reasons why having children is easy for some couples and next to impossible for others. A professional is often the answer for those who struggle. This person can offer suggestions, encouragement, and compassion without judgement or bias.




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