Tuesday 25 March 2014

Childrearing Can Be Free Of Temper Tantrums

By Leanna Rae Scott


How, you ask, can I be so sure it's possible to raise kids free of temper tantrums when parenting experts tell us it's not possible? My first five babies all threw temper tantrums...and my last eight did not. My fifth baby was around fourteen months old when I figured out what to change in my parenting style so that he became forever free of temper tantrums within about a week.

As I had my last eight children, I applied the same parenting techniques from as soon as they were born, and not one of them ever threw tantrums. I'm not, however, one of very few parents who've raised a number of temper-tantrum-free children. I have met hundreds of them, personally, and I'll bet there have been many millions worldwide.

If parenting experts should be believed when they tell us that virtually all children throw temper tantrums, then how could we account for the many parents who claim their children have never thrown them? Do we conclude that these parents are lying? Or do we conclude that the theory of tantrum inevitability is incorrect? It's easy for me to conclude the latter because I'm one of those parents who've raised some tantrum-free kids, and I know I'm not lying about it.

Parents of tantrum-free kids might not typically know exactly what they did different from what the parents of tantrum throwers did. I'm guessing this is because most of them haven't have failures to compare with their successes as I had. I'm guessing, in other words, that typically parents who have tantrum-free children succeed with all of their children, from the very start of their parenting. Somehow they start out on the right track and don't ever follow the typical, faulty tantrum advice. They don't, therefore, have before and after sets of examples to compare like I did, so they aren't able to say what they did to cause the failures and what they changed to create the success.

Despite the fact that many of these parents can't articulate what it was they did that created tantrum-free children, their experience still gives support to my theory. These parents demonstrate that temper-tantrum-free child rearing is very possible for those who discover the right techniques to use. Any parents who've been able to bring up tantrum-free kids are invited to list their experiences on my website's Tantrum Free Club page, so they can join the effort to convince others that tantrum-free childrearing is entirely possible. And any parents who weren't able to raise tantrum-free children are welcome to vent and share their most embarrassing and worst ever stories about temper tantrums on my Most Embarrassing Tantrums webpage.




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