Monday 26 August 2013

How To Make Your Confidence Soar

By Lachlan Haynes


Attack!

Random question without notice: Have you ever had a negative experience in relation to your 'learning' that has damaged your confidence? In other words, has anyone ever said something to you like 'no, you're wrong' (even though you knew you were right), 'you're an idiot', 'you're stupid', 'you'll never amount to anything', or 'you're never going to achieve anything in your life'? Has anything like this ever happened?

So, with that in mind, ask yourself: have you ever had a negative experience in relation to your 'learning' that has damaged your confidence? Has a higher authority (such as a teacher, older sibling, someone at school, parent or relative) ever told you that you were pathetic, useless or stupid? If so, did you automatically believe it to be the truth? It must be the truth because it came from a higher (and often respected or feared) authority didn't it? Obviously, just because a higher authority says it doesn't make it true. But the impact of these attacks is often subconscious and can lurk deep in the mind - rather than be something the individual is acutely aware of.

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Where's Your Esteem?

The esteem that you hold yourself in is a direct reflection of your feelings of ability and worth. This is very important in your studies because it impacts your confidence and your willingness to be open to learning and trying new things. Research shows there is a very strong link between students with high self-esteem and high achievement level. As expected, the opposite is also true, low self-esteem tends to result in a low achievement level. Can these trends be bucked? Yes of course they can - but it's not the norm.

Give Me Solutions!

The point of this article is to build you up and help you realize you are awesome. We want you to become the best you that you can possibly be. So let's look at some things you can do every day that will make your confidence soar.

1. Remember to be positive all the time - about everything single thing! If you don't feel positive just fake it. That's right, fake it! Fake it till you make it! There's little point in being negative anyway because it doesn't solve the problem does it? It actually just makes things worse. So, try being positive about every single thing for one whole week - even if it makes you feel sick! Give it a go. See what happens. You won't regret that you did. You'll also be surprised at how it trains your inner voice to start giving you positive feedback as well.

2. Think of all the things you are good at and all the success you have created. If you're not sure ask your parents or your friends. Write these things down and keep adding to the list as you think of anything. Read the list every morning when you wake up and any time you need a confidence boost. Just write things that make you feel good and you know are true. You will find there are many more amazing things about you than you realized. If you think there isn't you're just being negative again! Focus on the good.

3. Stop comparing yourself with other students. You have no idea what other people's lives are really like because you don't live their life. Things are never what they seem. So what are you comparing yourself to anyway? The only comparison worth making is that of comparing yourself today with yourself yesterday. Are you better today than you were yesterday? If so, how? Always strive to improve yourself each day and you will make huge gains over the course of a week, a month and a year.

4. Respect yourself. Your body is your temple. Take good care of yourself. Eat well. Do some exercise. Pump some iron. Get some good sleep. You will feel better about yourself if you are healthy and well rested. It's a fact if you are unhealthy and don't get enough sleep that you will actually feel much more negative. Don't believe it? Eat rubbish and don't sleep for a week - or do you already do that? (we hope not)

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