Thursday 13 March 2014

Getting Rid Of Your Anger After Her Infidelity

By Jeraldine Hemongala


Relationships are difficult under the best of circumstances. But if there has been a serious breach such as an affair, it is even more difficult. The wronged party experiences a vast array of negative emotions, including depression, hurt and anger. But it's important to move past these emotions, especially the anger. Allowing it to fester will have a negative impact on all other relationships, including your friends, family, and coworkers. It is even harmful to your health.

Having anger in your heart can unconsciously affect relationships with friends, family and coworkers. That being said, it is important to take measures to get over anger in order to regain your emotional health.

When you have anger in your heart, you will find that it affects your relationships, from your friends, to your family, all the way to your co-workers. Eventually, your life will begin to fall apart, and you will start down a path that you never wanted to see in the first place.

1. Whether it's your best friend, a counselor, someone from a support group, your next door neighbor, or heck even your plumber, for goodness sake talk to someone and let that anger out. Men are not known to talk about their feelings, but in this case, releasing all those pent up anger and questions looming in your head through talking will not make you less of a man.

Men are notorious for being bad communicators. They have a tendency to keep things bottled up inside. If that is true of you, it's vital that you allow yourself to open up and let the anger out. It does the most damage when it is kept pent up inside.

By talking to someone, you will be able to clear your head and put your issues into a perspective that you can understand. The people you talk to can give you advice, but that doesn't mean you need to follow all of it. If you listen, you will see the advice you need to take, and apply it to your life.

Exercise can also help you feel and look good about yourself. It will help boost your confidence and self-worth that was crushed after knowing about your wife's infidelity. Exercise everyday and often.

One of the biggest issues of discovering infidelity is a loss of self esteem. Why did they do it? Were you not good enough? By exercising you will get yourself in shape, raise your self esteem, and ultimately stop questioning yourself.

Valuable lessons can be learned if you are objective about the incident. Keep in mind that she is, like you, an imperfect human being. She blew it. The important thing is she still loves you and wants this relationship to work.

Consider the circumstances. Was she feeling neglected, taken for granted? Was she working in a job that required lots of travel and lonely nights in a hotel room? What could or should be changed to continue with the relationship?

Yes, she cheated, and it's terrible, but it's not the end of the world. The more you prepare yourself to move on, the easier it will be. You will be happier, and your future will be brighter. Perhaps you will build an even better marriage in the future! Then again, moving on entirely might be on the menu.




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