Written by Jimmie Burroughs
Usually at the beginning of a New Year folk think about starting a new start, instead of pondering starting a fresh start, think first about making a new ending; that way you may then actually start a new start. Does that make sense? Stop doing the things which are stopping you, to explain, so you can begin to move forward. Everybody has their own list that are injuring them and holding them back, which frequently includes part, or perhaps all of the 10 things noted below. Improve your life seriously when you stop doing these 10 things:
Stop living in the past
Stop playing the blame game
Stop blaming yourself
Stop condemning, griping and criticizing
Stop depending on somebody else for your happiness
Stop pointlessly spending time
Cease being a false
Stop nasty habits that are killing you
No longer be negative
Stop hating
Stop living in the past:
Try to live like the past never existed; for any practical purpose it does not. At any rate it's gone and can not be changed in any way. The single thing living in the past can do is pull you down and cause you not to live your fullest in the present. Past success, failure, joy, pain or contentment isn't important; only what we do now matters. Open your eyes to new possibilities; take advantage of the things right before you now. Remember this: "Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof ." Matthew 6:34. Trying to cope with more than just today is an overload that will lead you to crash and burn.
Dale Carnegie had a great way of putting it in his book "How to stop panicking and start living", he claimed, "Live in day tight compartments." Just like a giant ship can be portioned into compartments separate from one another to keep everything else out, we should live only 1 day at a time and close yesterday and tomorrow out; like living in day tight compartments, a single day at a time.
Stop playing the blame game:
"All blame is a waste of time. Irrespective of how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The one thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are searching for external reasons to explain your sadness or disappointment. You can succeed in making another have feelings of guilt about something by blaming him, but you will not succeed in changing whatever it is about you that's making you unhappy." Wayne Dyer.
Blaming others, or things only gives you a false excuse for not taking the responsibility for your own life and actions and doing something about it . Regardless of if someone or something is the blame, it doesn't do any good in the slightest to play the blame game; it keeps you from moving forward and making correction that need making. The only thing that assists in getting on with life is when we are willing to be responsible for our own life and begin to make right things occur instead of waiting around for time to make the choices for us. Time left alone has a means of serving up a bunch of unwished-for events.
Stop blaming yourself:
There's a difference in assuming accountability for your life and consistently blaming yourself. If you have got a need to blame yourself, do it once then and go on. Continually blaming yourself is like setting a trap that keeps you within a vicious circle of responsibility, shame, guilt and fear. There is a part of you that is attempting to control you; some say it is ego and others claim it is the flesh. Whatever it is, you must be stronger and refuse for it to occur. If you do not, it'll kill your spirit and make you forever feel defeated.
Some go their life never having the ability to get past blaming themselves for everything that went wrong. We all make mistakes and experience failure; that is part of life, but to live in the frame of mind of blaming self is futile and never helps us to decide our Problems and move forward.
There's only 1 solution and that's to forgive yourself just as you would be anticipated to excuse somebody else, and then leave it behind and move on with your life.
Stop condemning, complaining and criticizing:
Being around someone who is consistently. Condemning, grousing and criticising is enough to drive you funny , so why would you ever need to be that person. Even those that do it don't want to hear some other person who does it. Try writing your protests down and then read them back to yourself; see how quick you become bored. The simple truth is that most people couldn't care less what you think anyhow. Folk enjoy hearing their own name and pleasant things about themselves. If you'd like to be fascinating to somebody, try and forget about yourself and complains etc and talk in their interest. Sorry mate but that's the way it is. If you continue to feel forced to rant and rave, find someplace all by yourself and then carry on; the remainder of us don't want to hear it.
Stop depending on somebody else for your happiness:
There is something I'm of the opinion a lot of people need to grasp, and that is they are not responsible for anyone's happiness but their own , and neither should they anticipate someone else to make them contented. Your contentment is an intensely personal matter that only is addressed by you. I am not suggesting that we don't need to be concerned about others and try in every way to make their life better; but to maintain their contentment for them isn't something that's practicable.
If you can't create your very own contentment, you most likely are going to be a sad dude from here out. Understanding what happiness is and what it isn't is critical. However space doesn't permit a discussion on that here. Read my article on "Finding contentment".
Stop wasting time:
A survey of 2500 employees exposed that Sixty-four p.c of respondents report wasting one hour or less each day , 22% waste roughly 2 hours daily, and 14% waste 3 or even more hours each workday. Salary.com calculated that, "employers spend $759 bn. each year on incomes for which real work was predicted, but not actually performed."
The job isn't the only place precious time is wasted. We waste our time commuting to far away jobs, watching stupid TV programs that we don't truly enjoy, going places we had rather not go and doing things we rather not do. The list could go on.
I do not mean to imply that there's never a time to do nothing ; doing nothing is needed from time to time. It would be loony to try to to redeem each minute of the day. The object is to use your time better and gain by doing so.
For example, a way to redeem a little time is to cut out a couple hours of watching TV each day , and use it for helping yourself to become a better person by reading an interesting book on private development. Check my list of 10 recommended classics on personal development, all free eBook downloads. You may want to try reading history's hottest book on private development, the Bible.
Cease being a phony:
Who likes a false and who can't tell one when you see one? Being you is always the best approach. I can recollect when Kevin Skinner first auditioned for "America's got talent"; he started talking in his native Kentucky, country accent and the judges almost rolled out of their places. They weren't laughing though when he started singing and they heard how well he could sing. One of the judges made an apology to him and complemented him for the real person he was. He was just himself and failed to try to put on airs in how he dressed or how he spoke. In case you don't know, he won the challenge and pocketed the million bucks.
Stop bad habits that are murdering you:
Drugs, drinking and smoking are a selection of the number 1 killers. If you have got a substance issue, whether or not it is illegal substances or prescription, find help today and conquer them before they overcome you. It is astounding that both Elvis Presley and Michael Jackson, the top two entertainers of the 20th century, purportedly died at an early age because of prescription drug O. D.. How sad and what a waste. The stories of other entertainers who killed themselves on overdoses of substances would fill a book. That goes without including the many others who also have traveled that path. When will folks ever learn?
The most avertable cause of disease is tobacco and it is the nation's best cause of death. Every year, it is worked out that 443,000 folk lose their life prematurely due to smoking or exposure to secondhand smoke; 8.6 million more live with a significant disease caused by smoking. It does not stop there: It is estimated that 88 million non smokers are also affected from second hand smoke, which includes 54% kids from ages 3-11. The use of tobacco must be the dumbest way ever to die before your time or have to live with a enfeebling . Illness.
Stop being negative:
The only thing a negative disposition will gain you is a reputation for being a negative person. What makes a person negative is their choice to dwell on what's wrong rather than what's right. It is like considering the glass to be half full or half empty. There always will be things wrong; that is the character of life but there will be things that are right and it's just a matter of which you decide to characterize your life. Negative brings bad feelings and positive brings good feelingchoose!
Stop hating:
The hate drive is a God given emotional drive. There is actually a place and time to detest; as an example, hating to see someone abused and mistreated. The wrong way to use hate is hating somebody for a reason or for absolutely no reason. The explanation being, to harbor hate only will hurt the person harboring it. As someone said, "It is like drinking poison yourself hoping it will kill somebody else."
Conclusion:
Perhaps not all the above applies to you. I should hope that it does not, and then again you could have other things wholly original to your life that you will need to stop. Remember though, you can not start a new chapter in your life till you close the old chapters that re holding you back.
Usually at the beginning of a New Year folk think about starting a new start, instead of pondering starting a fresh start, think first about making a new ending; that way you may then actually start a new start. Does that make sense? Stop doing the things which are stopping you, to explain, so you can begin to move forward. Everybody has their own list that are injuring them and holding them back, which frequently includes part, or perhaps all of the 10 things noted below. Improve your life seriously when you stop doing these 10 things:
Stop living in the past
Stop playing the blame game
Stop blaming yourself
Stop condemning, griping and criticizing
Stop depending on somebody else for your happiness
Stop pointlessly spending time
Cease being a false
Stop nasty habits that are killing you
No longer be negative
Stop hating
Stop living in the past:
Try to live like the past never existed; for any practical purpose it does not. At any rate it's gone and can not be changed in any way. The single thing living in the past can do is pull you down and cause you not to live your fullest in the present. Past success, failure, joy, pain or contentment isn't important; only what we do now matters. Open your eyes to new possibilities; take advantage of the things right before you now. Remember this: "Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof ." Matthew 6:34. Trying to cope with more than just today is an overload that will lead you to crash and burn.
Dale Carnegie had a great way of putting it in his book "How to stop panicking and start living", he claimed, "Live in day tight compartments." Just like a giant ship can be portioned into compartments separate from one another to keep everything else out, we should live only 1 day at a time and close yesterday and tomorrow out; like living in day tight compartments, a single day at a time.
Stop playing the blame game:
"All blame is a waste of time. Irrespective of how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The one thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are searching for external reasons to explain your sadness or disappointment. You can succeed in making another have feelings of guilt about something by blaming him, but you will not succeed in changing whatever it is about you that's making you unhappy." Wayne Dyer.
Blaming others, or things only gives you a false excuse for not taking the responsibility for your own life and actions and doing something about it . Regardless of if someone or something is the blame, it doesn't do any good in the slightest to play the blame game; it keeps you from moving forward and making correction that need making. The only thing that assists in getting on with life is when we are willing to be responsible for our own life and begin to make right things occur instead of waiting around for time to make the choices for us. Time left alone has a means of serving up a bunch of unwished-for events.
Stop blaming yourself:
There's a difference in assuming accountability for your life and consistently blaming yourself. If you have got a need to blame yourself, do it once then and go on. Continually blaming yourself is like setting a trap that keeps you within a vicious circle of responsibility, shame, guilt and fear. There is a part of you that is attempting to control you; some say it is ego and others claim it is the flesh. Whatever it is, you must be stronger and refuse for it to occur. If you do not, it'll kill your spirit and make you forever feel defeated.
Some go their life never having the ability to get past blaming themselves for everything that went wrong. We all make mistakes and experience failure; that is part of life, but to live in the frame of mind of blaming self is futile and never helps us to decide our Problems and move forward.
There's only 1 solution and that's to forgive yourself just as you would be anticipated to excuse somebody else, and then leave it behind and move on with your life.
Stop condemning, complaining and criticizing:
Being around someone who is consistently. Condemning, grousing and criticising is enough to drive you funny , so why would you ever need to be that person. Even those that do it don't want to hear some other person who does it. Try writing your protests down and then read them back to yourself; see how quick you become bored. The simple truth is that most people couldn't care less what you think anyhow. Folk enjoy hearing their own name and pleasant things about themselves. If you'd like to be fascinating to somebody, try and forget about yourself and complains etc and talk in their interest. Sorry mate but that's the way it is. If you continue to feel forced to rant and rave, find someplace all by yourself and then carry on; the remainder of us don't want to hear it.
Stop depending on somebody else for your happiness:
There is something I'm of the opinion a lot of people need to grasp, and that is they are not responsible for anyone's happiness but their own , and neither should they anticipate someone else to make them contented. Your contentment is an intensely personal matter that only is addressed by you. I am not suggesting that we don't need to be concerned about others and try in every way to make their life better; but to maintain their contentment for them isn't something that's practicable.
If you can't create your very own contentment, you most likely are going to be a sad dude from here out. Understanding what happiness is and what it isn't is critical. However space doesn't permit a discussion on that here. Read my article on "Finding contentment".
Stop wasting time:
A survey of 2500 employees exposed that Sixty-four p.c of respondents report wasting one hour or less each day , 22% waste roughly 2 hours daily, and 14% waste 3 or even more hours each workday. Salary.com calculated that, "employers spend $759 bn. each year on incomes for which real work was predicted, but not actually performed."
The job isn't the only place precious time is wasted. We waste our time commuting to far away jobs, watching stupid TV programs that we don't truly enjoy, going places we had rather not go and doing things we rather not do. The list could go on.
I do not mean to imply that there's never a time to do nothing ; doing nothing is needed from time to time. It would be loony to try to to redeem each minute of the day. The object is to use your time better and gain by doing so.
For example, a way to redeem a little time is to cut out a couple hours of watching TV each day , and use it for helping yourself to become a better person by reading an interesting book on private development. Check my list of 10 recommended classics on personal development, all free eBook downloads. You may want to try reading history's hottest book on private development, the Bible.
Cease being a phony:
Who likes a false and who can't tell one when you see one? Being you is always the best approach. I can recollect when Kevin Skinner first auditioned for "America's got talent"; he started talking in his native Kentucky, country accent and the judges almost rolled out of their places. They weren't laughing though when he started singing and they heard how well he could sing. One of the judges made an apology to him and complemented him for the real person he was. He was just himself and failed to try to put on airs in how he dressed or how he spoke. In case you don't know, he won the challenge and pocketed the million bucks.
Stop bad habits that are murdering you:
Drugs, drinking and smoking are a selection of the number 1 killers. If you have got a substance issue, whether or not it is illegal substances or prescription, find help today and conquer them before they overcome you. It is astounding that both Elvis Presley and Michael Jackson, the top two entertainers of the 20th century, purportedly died at an early age because of prescription drug O. D.. How sad and what a waste. The stories of other entertainers who killed themselves on overdoses of substances would fill a book. That goes without including the many others who also have traveled that path. When will folks ever learn?
The most avertable cause of disease is tobacco and it is the nation's best cause of death. Every year, it is worked out that 443,000 folk lose their life prematurely due to smoking or exposure to secondhand smoke; 8.6 million more live with a significant disease caused by smoking. It does not stop there: It is estimated that 88 million non smokers are also affected from second hand smoke, which includes 54% kids from ages 3-11. The use of tobacco must be the dumbest way ever to die before your time or have to live with a enfeebling . Illness.
Stop being negative:
The only thing a negative disposition will gain you is a reputation for being a negative person. What makes a person negative is their choice to dwell on what's wrong rather than what's right. It is like considering the glass to be half full or half empty. There always will be things wrong; that is the character of life but there will be things that are right and it's just a matter of which you decide to characterize your life. Negative brings bad feelings and positive brings good feelingchoose!
Stop hating:
The hate drive is a God given emotional drive. There is actually a place and time to detest; as an example, hating to see someone abused and mistreated. The wrong way to use hate is hating somebody for a reason or for absolutely no reason. The explanation being, to harbor hate only will hurt the person harboring it. As someone said, "It is like drinking poison yourself hoping it will kill somebody else."
Conclusion:
Perhaps not all the above applies to you. I should hope that it does not, and then again you could have other things wholly original to your life that you will need to stop. Remember though, you can not start a new chapter in your life till you close the old chapters that re holding you back.
About the Author:
About the author: Jimmie Burroughs is an inspiring speaker and writer who has been involved in teaching Christian Personal Development for more than 30 years. He is a dedicated disciple of Jesus Christ and considers helping folks his calling in life. His website contains over 600 articles on preparing yourself for success thru personal development and the things which go with private development.
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