Friday 18 November 2011

Why Popular Advice Is Useless If You Want To Get Your Boyfriend Back

By Cath Babenko


Are you tempted to listen to the advice of relationship experts when it comes to getting your boyfriend back? Find out why they may be leading you astray and what will actually help you to get your boyfriend back.

If you've been looking for information on how to get your boyfriend back you are going to find a lot of conflicting advice out there. Everyone is an expert these days and the advice that you might find will run the gamut of extremes. There is advice from those out there that hold degrees, those with nothing but street smarts and experience to vouch for and even people who are only speaking from their own experience. What direction do you turn and who do you listen to?

While many of the old school professionals might have degrees or even a full time counseling practice to back up their claims of being knowledgeable when it comes to relationships, what you probably care the most about is getting information that will actually help you to get your boyfriend back. You want to cut through the garbage and get down to what it is going to take to get your ex back. A counselor is just going to take way too much of your time and way too much money for what you are looking for.

You have to think about what will be involved in visiting a counselor or therapist with the aim of gaining advice on how to get your boyfriend back. In advance, you should know that it will probably take you several weeks of meeting with a professional just to help them to understand about your relationship and what might have gone wrong to begin with. In addition, most of these people are not interested in helping you to get your boyfriend. They are in the business of healing hearts and helping you get over the rejection and get you moving on to the next relationship. This is just the way they roll and if they can get you to fall in love with someone else then the pain will go away, right? Wrong!

Then you have people out there that have successfully helped others to get their ex back. These are the people that you are looking for. You won't find them with regular office hours and their advice often isn't recognized by so called relationship experts or counselors. Many of these people do start off helping people to get over the pain from their breakup but often it is with a tender heart and a solid purpose to bring two people that once loved each other back together.

I know that when I broke up with my boyfriend I was searching for answer to how I could get him back. Sure, I wanted to know how to deal with the heartache and loneliness but I knew in my heart that the surest way to end that pain was to get back together with my boyfriend. Many people tried to discourage me from going in this direction and I even had friends try to set me up on dates but I knew what I wanted and what was in my heart. I knew that what I felt for my boyfriend was true and right and that I wasn't prepared to give up on a relationship with someone that was really special and right for me.

What did make sense to me was to find other people that had been successful at getting their ex back and do exactly what they had done. I knew that this was the sure path to success in getting my boyfriend back but I needed those answer for what to say and what to do as soon as possible. Every day was painful and every moment apart from the one that my heart cried out for was excruciating. I wanted my best friend back and that piece of my heart that he took with him.

Friends and family might mean well and their heart is in the right place but if you find yourself feeling discouraged or torn up inside every time you contemplate moving on then I encourage you to continue to work towards getting your boyfriend back. In this day and age of disposable relationships and quickie divorces, people like you are few and far between and you probably already know that moving on is impossible. Your heart feels what it feels and the only thing that is really going to bring true healing to your heart is to be with the one you love then get ready to get your boyfriend back. Your relationship is worth it, your ex is worth it and you are deserving of getting your boyfriend back and basking in the love that you once shared again.




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